And He said to him, ” ‘ you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart , and with all your soul , and with all your mind .’ This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, ‘ you shall love your neighbor as yourself .’
Matthew 22:37-39 NASB
If you set it on your own values, since you are an imperfect man or woman, you would be missing the target. Please consider Jesus as the person, to look at and the bible for you reference. You will not be sorry, and neither will your children.
Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Proverbs 22:6 NASB